Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Tamia - You Put A Move On My Heart (U Betta Sang Tamia!)

Feeling Some Kind of Way by Shana Jay

“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine”

I have yet to be sold on “love at first sight” as a matter of fact I don’t believe it’s possible. Now what I do believe in is encountering a soul mate.  I have had all sort of encounters and I possibly need to write a tell all about them (lol). On a serious note it’s an amazing feeling to encounter a person who can relate to you mentally and emotionally.  Have you ever had someone to come along and change your views on love? I have. I was totally done with love because I felt that love had made a fool of me one to many times.  Love left me feeling abandoned, confused and down right bitter. There would be times that I would cry rivers upon rivers forming a sea of hurt. I really thought love was my enemy.  The reality of my situation was that I shared my love with the wrong people who were undeserving of what I had to offer. I also was searching for love in the wrong places.
In order to understand what love is I researched the bible and this is what I found “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” The men that I desired love from couldn’t give this to me because they were selfish. Then I also realized that if a man doesn’t have a relationship and love for God then how can he possibly love me? What I have learned is that God has someone for everyone we were not made/created to be alone. So when I encountered this person I was truly out done. He is a great friend, confidant and loves God more than life itself. I personally thought I was damaged goods but that is not a true statement. The bad relationships were actually learning experiences and God knew that I had to go through them in order to be the vessel He desires me to be in this walk.
In conclusion, what I appreciate is that God loves me so much that he allowed this person to come into my life to be my healer. He is showing me that all men aren’t dogs, romance isn’t dead, and last but not least there are men out here with integrity. If this can happen for me, if I can change my mind about opening up and considering loving again then God can do this for you too. Just remember everything happens on HIS time not yours.
Shana Jay

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Sexy by Shana Jay

Sexy is an adjective described as being sexually attractive or exciting. Did you know its not hard being sexy? Its fun to encounter someone with great sex appeal. Being sexy to me is when a man can make love to my mind. Meaning he can masturbate, stimulate and massage my mental capacity. He can cause another brain cell to grow. Sexy to me is when a man can correct me out of love not trying to control me.
            Not pushing his weight around constantly sticking his chest out proclaiming “I am Man Hear Me Roar.” Sexy to me is when a man is in touch with his sensitive side which allows him to engage in my desires. Sexy is when a man can respect me enough to wait …like Jill says I need to know if your crazy lol. But what’s even sexier is when a man loves God and puts Him first above all things!
Now with women we are automatically sexy creatures it oozes from our pours. Some of us haven’t tapped into being sexy so let me help you all bring sexy back. It’s ok to be natural!! Tons of makeup will not enhance your natural beauty it will only cover up what’s already there. A friend of mine told me that when he comes into contact with a woman with lots of makeup piled on he quickly becomes afraid that some of her face will be left on his clothing. Then he questions if she is not comfortable with herself meaning “What is she insecure about?”
Sexy is when a woman can not only uphold a beautiful exterior but can also hold an educated conversation. Many men have told me that they have come into contact with women who can not hold a descent conversation. If you’re beautiful and when you open your mouth you sound like a “duh-duh” it can be a total turn off. Being naked is not sexy!!! Did you know that it’s ok to leave some things to the imagination? It’s ok to make a man wonder and personally I get sick of seeing booty meat with black cheeks and breast hanging to your knees.
Something has to click internally and help one to wake up to see that self love is the best love. If you love yourself you wouldn’t exploit yourself in that manner. Then what gets me is when a man treats you the way you are dress (like a slut or whore your presenting yourself to be) then you have the nerve to get upset. Really??!
In conclusion, I embrace my sexiness with open arms. I love every age spot to each individual strand of red hair on my head. I love my illuminating smile down to my hypnotizingly long legs. You say I’m fancy huh? Glad you noticed when I look in the mirror I sing this chorus. I love myself every flaw, every discrepancy these things add to my personality.  I love myself this much is true but if I didn’t tell me how could I possibly love you?    
Shana Jay

Erykah Badu ft. Rahzel (Roots) - Southern Gul (SONG OF THE DAY..Southern Guls will rock ur world)

Monday, June 20, 2011

Erykah Badu Annie Dont Wear No Panties(SANG ERYKAH!!!!! *GROOVIN*)

A Piece of Mind By Shana Jay

Peace of Mind
Peace of mind is very hard to come by and believe me I speak from experience. I can truly say there is nothing like it and nothing that can compare to this serene experience.  Peace of mind is priceless; it can’t be bought.  I have always desired to be rich but even millionaires encounter problems.  I heard that the more [money] you have the more problems you inherit.
            I still struggle with the situations of life. I have encountered so much peace.  No matter what comes my way, I just think of people who have stumbled upon circumstances that render them helpless and who are in a worse state than me.  I embrace peace as if it were my knight in shining armor.  Don’t get me wrong, I am still human and have human reactions.  However, there is only one thing that matters in my life and that is peace of mind.
            Peace of mind has crowned me and I have become heir to the throne of tranquility. My rights of passage consist of a mindset that calls for God to grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.  I have allowed peace to overtake me.  I have surrendered all of my anxieties, worries and fears which in the end are trivial.
            I longed for peace of mind. It was an insatiable craving like known other. It was like an unquenchable thirst. Once I realized that peace of mind was free to anyone who yearned for it, I seized the moment and never let go.  So if you see me now and wonder what’s so different, it’s called Peace of Mind: my rescuer, my liberator, my redeemer, my all and all.  

It feels great to have a piece of mind. I can honestly say that I struggled with this for a long time.  I could never quite master the art because I wasn’t where I was supposed to be.  For example I was attending a church where I was being fed the word of God by the pounds but that wasn’t the church God had in mind for me and I knew this.  The only reason why I joined was because I was in a relationship *if that what it was* with one of the members. 
He invited me to come and I enjoyed the word and the environment but it was also a way in being closer to him. Things were great for us in the beginning but then I started seeing some things in him and in the church that I didn’t agree with, but I still continued to go.  When he and I fell out it was a lot of tension and it was to the point where I would not come to church at all just so that I wouldn’t have to see his face and he did the same.
 Of course you had to know God was not pleased with this because I allowed this man to take my focus off the real reason that I should have been coming to church in the first place and that’s to serve “HIM.”  The lesson I learned was that it was not in my best interest to have a personal relationship with someone that attended the same church as I did.  
What was really crazy was the fact that it was his home church in the beginning but I thought when things went left field that he should have left not me. (A mess) Let me also say that I got deeply involved with this church and the behind the scenes of the ministry disturbed me as well so I had no peace.  I felt as if God was making things uncomfortable for me so that I could leave so that I could get back on track with his plans for me. I didn’t consult God in my decision to join this man’s church I just did it out of convenience.  
Another issue that I had that brought me mental frustration was my job. I can honestly say that I found it hard at times to clock in.  I would pray and then I would pray some more. I had plenty of opportunities to leave but I was so comfortable I just made the best of it. God moved in that situation as well and when he did I felt like a weight had been lifted. 
In conclusion, God can make your seemingly comfortable situation uncomfortable if you’re not in His will. Then if you don’t make the move he has provided for you then he will gladly assist in helping you……. in efforts to get you where you need to be rather it is on the job, in relationships, or church. You see I did what I wanted to do because I felt God wasn’t moving quickly enough. I felt that I was in control of my life and that I made the best decision and since I didn’t consult God I was miserable.   When I finally surrendered I realized that everybody has a purpose and a plan.  I know what mine is and this is why I have peace of mind. I am doing what’s best for me and what God wants for me as well……Are you??

Shana Jay

Thursday, June 16, 2011

A Time to Heal by Shana Jay

“Time heals all wounds”

 I can remember a dear friend telling me over and over again that I needed to get somewhere and heal. She said I didn't need to hurt anyone else’s son (lol). When I think back on the conversation she was exactly right. You see I had been in relationship after relationship not giving myself the time that I needed to heal mentally, physically and emotionally. I would jump out of one relationship directly into another one because I hated being alone. Moreover, in my times of being alone I would be forced to deal with my issues and I wasn't ready for all that.  
So therefore I would always be out doing something. I, Shana Jay, threw myself deep into my work, and into my writings. I made sure that I kept busy so that I wouldn’t have to think about what I really needed to be dealing with. Now eventually this got played out and loneliness finally caught up with me and believe me it was not a pretty sight. I’m saying all this to say that a lot of the reasons relationships don’t work out is because people try to move on too quickly (past relationships).
There are people who are still hurting, holding anger, resentment and regret in their hearts (I’m guilty) so instead of going through the healing process they find someone or something to pacify them for the moment hoping that whatever it is will help them forget about their past. That never works.
In conclusion, I am in the process of getting to know “Shana” and being ok with who she is. I am taking time out to get a better relationship with God and heal my wounds so therefore when that time comes I wont be the bag lady that Erykah Badu sings about. Nobody should pay for the last person’s mistakes. It’s not fair to you or to them.
Shana Jay


Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Digging Ditches By Shana Jay


                                             "If You Dig One Ditch You Better Dig Two"

It’s funny how I prepared myself for the ditch that was being dug for me. I knew a particular person had it out for me but I decided regardless of this person's actions I would continue to ride things out till the end. You see what I do know is what God has for me it is for me. Psalms 23:5 states clearly "Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies" and that was the position that I was in.
This person would smile in my face but his/her heart never lied. Their heart played a familiar tune by the Temptations "Smiling Faces" and indeed smiling faces tell lies and I got proof. I knew deep within that this person disliked me. I have also come to the conclusion that know matter how I present myself everybody will not be able to accept me or my strong personality and I'm okay with that.
 I'm not angry I grateful for the lesson God has taught me.  One thing that I do know is God will make my enemies my footstool and I believe that. This particular person will never be happy until he/she looks deep within and sincerely desires to change. Until then I will continue to pray for my enemies because I know it must be hard to wake up everyday miserable and full of grief. 
In conclusion, make sure that when you dig a ditch for someone else..... you better dig an even bigger one for yourself.  Even though my enemies meant to harm me by being vindictive it actually opened another door for better opportunities. Moreover, the trap was a setup to hinder me but it actually failed.


Shana Jay

Monday, June 13, 2011

Is the Devil Stalking You? By Shana Jay

“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy

I went to church on yesterday and the guest pastor made the statement “Is the Devil Stalking You?” I died laughing because he took me off guard after he made his explanation I better understood. He explained it by saying the devil studies us and he knows what we like so he waits for the opportunity to catch us slipping. He also stated that he (the devil) is upset devil had us and when we found Jesus he got upset that the relationship had been cut off. So the devil’s mission is to catch us at our weakest point and when he gets us he will never let us go again.
I have had my share of stalkers and it’s not a pleasant feeling. Some women think it’s cute for a man to be possessive, controlling, and hiding in the bushes…..me on the other hand …. I’ll pass. So for the pastor to put the devil in the category of a stalker was actually the right place for him to be. He is always in my ear trying to steer me in the wrong direction because he doesn’t want to be the only one in hell. The devil is mad because he was cast out of heaven for being greedy and wanting to be God but there is only one God .He said “I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.
          In conclusion, even though the devil has a plan God is working things out for our good. The devil is a klepto and I will not allow him to steal my joy. So on today I would like for you all to know that no matter how ruff things may be in your life just know that God has your back, never let the Devil get the best of you and steal your joy. 

Friday, June 10, 2011

Why Family Matters by Shana Jay

“I don't care how poor a man is; if he has family, he's rich.

Family is a very important factor of life. I had the opportunity to meet a young man at an event where I was promoting my book last night. Muhammad Abdur Rahman made such an impression on me that I had to write about him. He talked about how his mother and aunts are the reason he is the man that he is today. He talked about how his mother sacrificed to make a better life for him and his brothers. Muhammad painted a picture of how his mother was so determined to become a doctor that she would be up all times of the night studying but she made sure that she walked him to school every day rain, sleet or snow. She rode the bus to school and her support system (her sisters) would step in while she attempted to better herself.
Muhammad said that he and his brothers started working at an early age so they could help their mother pay bills in order that she wouldn’t have to struggle. This story was very touching to me because he spoke so highly of his mother and what she instilled in him was that hard work pays off. In my situation, I’ve learned that my family loves me and they are my greatest supporters.
Family will be there for you know matter what and for some people who feel they can make it without family are sadly mistaken because you can’t do everything on your own. There is no such thing as a perfect family there will always be some form of dysfunction that lingers. You cannot pick your family but you should be grateful of what you have.
In conclusion, people are dying everyday holding on to meaningless grudges that can be over looked with the power of communication. All I’m saying is you should never take for granted the family God has blessed you with. Remember there will always be someone who is dying to be in your shoes look at the situation that happened in Joplin, Mo. I couldn’t imagine having to search for my family members in the mist of devastation. The Key words today: Be grateful for family!

Shana Jay  

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Jill Scott ft. Anthony Hamilton - So In Love (CANT WAIT TO SEE JILL)

Who Is Shana Jay? by Shana Jay

Who am I? I am whatever you want me to be. I can be a certified Bitch rocking my stilettos equipped with chains and whips.

Who am I? I’m that much needed round the way chic sucking my lollipop licking my glossy lips.

Who am I? Ms. Hotter than July, Ms. Ride or Die, A black butterfly making these grown men cry because of this million dollar pie

   Who am I? Genesis the beginning and end to poetry because lyrically I am a beast with paper and pen no need to keep all this passion bottled with in

Who am I? I’m Shana Jay, the authoress, not trying to impress or compete come find me if poetry is what you seek

Who am I? I can be your lover, best friend or your whore I’m a limited edition one you can’t find in stores

 Who am I? Superwoman saving the world a single mother far from a little girl

Who am I? Your worse nightmare a pit-bull in fact will shake you like a ragdoll if you come at me talking smack

Who am I? A woman with standards who demands respect

Who am I? The CEO and Founder of emotions whose mental capacity is as deep as the ocean

Who am I? A child of God, young gifted and black

Who am I?  A perfect imperfection, a simple complication with a brilliant mind of organized chaos

Who am I? An open secret of unedited truth 

Who am I? Your motivation who will stroke your Ego with no hesitation

Who am I?  A diva who rules the world but deep inside a vulnerable little girl

Who am I? The one who just gave you another brain cell, the one who embraces freedom of speech because I don’t believe in walking on shells

Who am I? The one who is deeper than thought and not afraid to get caught

I am who I say I am a number one hit my name is Shana Jay a Queen and this is the poetic game I spit.

Who is Shana Jay? I am a woman with purpose who views the world through a kaleidoscope. I don’t limit myself to what others think of me. I can make my own decisions and my presence to some can be intimidating. I fight for what I believe in and my passion is what drives me. It doesn’t take much to please me I’m a simple romantic. I love picnics in the park; I’m a lover of the arts. I love roses but tulips make me feel all warm and fuzzy on the inside. My color of choice is purple because its suits me. I don’t judge people by there actions but by their heart.
I am a witty person and my goal is to make people smile because it is a frown turned right side up or is it upside down (lol) . Music is my lover he comforts me like the warmth of a fire on a cold winter’s night. I am my own competition and my goal is to be the best that I can be. I support my other fellow authors as much as I can I am totally against the crab mentality. I’m just Shana born and bred from Memphis, TN with a stimulating southern accent and a presence that will light up the room. 
God is my all and all and I love the relationship we have. He is my Daddy and he takes care of me. I don’t want anybody else but him because he is the truth. I don’t have to question his motives or keep my guard up…. with him I can be free.  To get to know me is like peeling away layers of an onion. Part of my story may cause you to cry but I add flavor to those who are unable to see life through my eyes. 
I’m sweet like nectar to a honey bee and I love hard. When in pain I tend to bite back. I’m highly opinionated but I pick and choose my battles very carefully. I hope this introduction helps you to understand who I am as I allow you to peek into the window of my life. Enjoy my blog and make sure you share it with others. Thanks for all your love and support.

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Jill Scott - Le Boom Vent Suite (SONG OF THE DAY)

Backstabbers by Shana Jay

“Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy”

What is a friend? Per the Webster Dictionary: A person known well to another and regarded with liking, affection, and loyalty; a person whom one knows, likes, and trusts. You have to be very careful to whom you label as a friend because everyone you meet may not fall into that category.  I have a limited semi circle of friends that includes men and women. These people have known me since childhood and they love me wholeheartedly only wanting the best for me. My friends are loyal to me as well I am to them. I can count on them to tell me the truth even when it hurts. My friends don’t always agree with my actions and I am very leery of people who do.
            My mother made a strong statement she advised me to be careful of whose lap I laid my head in and tell my secrets to. She was referring to the story of Samson and Delilah. Samson was in love with Delilah and he loved her so much that he shared the secret of his strength with her only to be betrayed. While Samson slept with his head in Delilah’s lap she had his head shaved. Basically Delilah betrayed his trust and sold him out just like most people in this day and age do.
            Judas betrayed his friendship and sealed it with a kiss while he sold Jesus out over money. Loyalty and trust play a major role in my life and if I can’t trust you then how can we build a secure relationship or a friendship for that matter. You see I cut people off very quickly if this comes into question. I had a friend that talked about all her other friends behind their backs. This was a major red flag to me because if you talk about them to me what are you saying about me when I’m not around?
            This guy I knew would tell me that his ex was a stalker and she was crazy. So what was surprising was the fact that he sat next to her (this so-called lunatic) in church service one day and they appeared cool. I called him out and told him he was two faced because he talked about her like a dog to me but turned around and was skinning and grinning in her face. Why would anyone entertain an individual that gave them clues they were not mentally stable? (if that was the case)  Exactly his response *crickets*
            This same guy talked so badly about the men in his circle to a point that I had to ask why he hung around them if they were such terrible people. He couldn’t come up with a convincing answer. See his actions quickly made me question his character and again if he had no loyalty with his friends then what would make me so special. 
In conclusion, everybody that you come into contact with in your life will not be your friend but maybe carry the title of being your acquaintance or associate.  The word “Friend” is a word that shows action and if a person’s words don’t line up with their actions then you may want to consider evaluating your circle. Remember “Friend” is a title that only certain people of value can carry and uphold.

Shana Jay

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Cee-Lo feat. Melanie Fiona - Fool For You (SONG OF THE DAY)

Prince - Darling Nikki (HAPPY BIRTHDAY PRINCE)

PSA: Somebody Has to Say It….by Shana Jay

I can honestly say that I have had it up to here with the front lace wigs. First of all, if you are not a recovering cancer patient or going through some sort of chemotherapy then these wigs are not for you. If you have some sort of hair disease where your follicles will not produce natural hair then I understand why you would go to such extremes.  Now when and if you decide to purchase the front lace wig can you please have someone that is licensed apply it correctly to your scalp? I am seeing excess glue on people’s foreheads and I don’t think that is appropriate.
Next, I would like to touch on the custom made special ordered plantation mini blind eyelashes that are trending here lately. Let me just say for the record, please if you are gonna wear them then I should not see the black or white glue clumped up on top of your eyelids this is totally out of order. I don’t know who said that doubling up your eyelashes was appropriate but its not. I should not be able to see your eyelashes from the seventh or eighth row in church and you’re in the choir stand.   
I also have a problem with the tights or leggings being worn as pants and I can see through them and you have no draws on. What’s even worse is the cellulite that causes my stomach to turn automatically because its looks like cottage cheese being held hostage inside of nylon. Please be aware that people have children and this is not appropriate for virgin eyes and furthermore I don’t want to see this.
If you have a muffin top it is not suitable to tuck your shirt in this is unprofessional and corrective action will be enforced. There are proper tops for those of you who have this issue and when I’m bloated I wear them as well they are called baby doll tops. I also believe that it wouldn’t be much of a muffin top if you start being honest with yourself and purchase your correct size.
I believe that make-up is made to enhance not cover up and make you look like a totally different person. I should not be afraid to hug you in fear that some of your face will be left on my clothes. You should not look like something from the circus and ladies we have to do better. I feel that if people had true friends then I would not be writing this blog on today. A true friend would tell you the truth like you have a booger in your noise or “girl your breath is offensive” or “girl you have something green in your teeth”. I am tired of being exposed to the fashion “Hell Naw’s” and “what’s wrong with this picture” era.
In conclusion, I have done some terrible fashion flops a time or two in my life but when you know better then you do better. This has been a public service announcement brought to you in part by the fashion police now back to your regularly scheduled programs.

Shana Jay

Monday, June 6, 2011

Suicidal Thoughts by Shana Jay

There was a reported suicide in downtown Memphis over the weekend where a 41 year old man jumped to his death from the Peabody Rooftop on Saturday around 3:30p.m. He had a suicide notice attached to his body but it wasn’t clear why he killed himself. What pissed me off was to hear that people were taking pictures of this man’s dead body including a certain Bishop who I refuse to name until the authorities arrived.
When this country was declared to be in a recession and to my surprise the suicide rate increased across the map. There were several murder suicide also reported on a weekly bases on CNN and other local channels. I had a family member to kill himself because he was simply discouraged. I too contemplated suicide but because I had a support system that cared enough for me to reach out I’m here today.
This is how I see it, people are crying out giving several signs that they want to give up on life but people are not listening. What I mean by not listening is their cries are going unheard or not being taking seriously enough to get involved.  Prime example, I had a friend who came off suicidal or should I say “bare watching” I called a family member and shared my concerns so they could get involved and the response that was given shocked me. The family member stated “If that does happen the only thing I would be concerned with is the fact that the insurance company wouldn’t cover the funeral.”
Insensitive statements of this nature are not what I would consider a WWJD approach to something so serious. I feel suicide in some way shows that a person has lost hope and they can’t possibly see a way out. People are under the impression that people who commit suicide will go directly to hell. Well I couldn’t find that scripture in the Bible but what I did find was that the only unforgivable sin is the rejection of God and blaspheming against the Holy Spirit. Mark 3:28-29 "Truly, I say to you, all sins will be forgiven the children of man, and whatever blasphemies they utter, 29but whoever blasphemes against the Holy Spirit never has forgiveness, but is guilty of an eternal sin."
In conclusion, nearly 1 million people worldwide commit suicide each year. I truly believe that this number could decrease if we would take time out to see about each other. Everybody didn’t come equipped with a strong mind and a lot of people don’t know God for themselves. If we call ourselves Christians then we should take the next step in helping out are sisters and brothers who don’t see life the way we do. If you don’t think your words or involvement will help you can take the next step by calling 1-800-273-8255 which is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

Shana Jay

Sunday, June 5, 2011

You Don't Have to Lie to Kick It by Shana Jay

“O, what a tangled web we weave; when first we practice to deceive!”

I simply detest a liar as a matter of I cannot and will not entertain a deceitful person. I have learned that people lie because they have some form of insecurity about themselves. Most people lie to cover up the person they really are and are afraid they will not be accepted. Others lie because they are just flat out messy and jealous.   I have run into my share of liars it’s almost like an epidemic especially in the dating world.
I had one guy that lied to me about a certain situation that he had going personally in his life. When the truth finally came out he revealed (not in his words but in his actions) that he didn’t think or trust that I would accept him. The truth of the matter is that if he told me the truth in the beginning and given me an opportunity to make the decision if I was to deal with him or not things would have played out much better.   What he failed to realize was that regardless of his status I loved him unconditionally flaws and all.
Proverbs 12:19 states that truthful lips will be established forever, but a lying tongue is only for a moment. Once you start telling one lie you have to continue in more lying in order to cover up all the lies that you have told. In other words a liar should have an impeccable memory in order to keep up with all the lies that have been told.  The Bible clearly states that God hates a liar and that it’s an abomination in his sight. Did you know that there is a special place in hell for liars? Awww ok then. Lil Wayne and Yo Gotti collaborated in a  song called “Women Lie, Men Lie” and it’s the truth we all have lied at some point in our lives, especially if the opportunity presented itself.
In conclusion, if you lie, you will cheat, if you cheat you will steal if you steal you will kill which as you can see is a very destructive road. Your word is bond and it says a lot about the character of the person you are dealing with especially if they always have a lie rolling off their lips.  Moreover, one should start being honest with themselves then one can be honest and truthful with others. 

Thursday, June 2, 2011

Arrogance is the New Black by Shana Jay

Have you ever met an individual who was arrogant, cocky, and so full of themselves that even though he or she was appealing to the eye everything about this person’s inner being was a turn off? I believe OutKast said it best “I know you'd like to thank your sh*t don't stank but lean a little bit closer See that roses really smell like boo-boo Yeah, roses really smell like boo-boo.”  
The most attractive characteristic on a man or anyone for that matter is the ability to be humble. I find myself looking on facebook wondering why the men have more photo opts of themselves than the women do. There is nothing attractive about a grown man posed up in the mirror taking pictures of himself with his camera phone. To me that suggest a number of things but the first thought that comes to mind is this person is really vain. It’s ok to be confidant and feel good about yourself but some people don’t know how or when to draw the line.
Arrogance is the new trend these days and its funny how the main people who play this role half the time don’t have a pot to piss in nor eye water to cry with. The fact is some people have not been exposed to certain things so they tend to have an heir about themselves when they finally get the experience.  Certain people get a little status and they forget where they came from and who helped them get there.
In conclusion, it’s ok to be confident and feel good about yourself but please don’t let the ego monster destroy you along the way. I will leave you with this God doesn’t live in a proud heart He simply detest it as a matter of fact. My suggestion is to remain humble because if God has to do it for you it will not be pretty.

Shana Jay 

Esperanza Spalding - Fall In (This is how I feel today)

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Church Folks by Shana Jay

You can’t please everybody even if you tried
I say this to myself with all my wounded pride down inside
People are really showing themselves for who they really are
The parade around with their hypocritical opinions adding salt to my scars
The church is said to be my covering and my strength
But every encounter of His people I feel as if this is a myth
I’m not talking against the church but the things church folk do
They say they are always praying for you and how they wish you well
But actions speak louder than words
Church folk will provide you with a one way ticket to hell
False motives, snakes in the grass ready to point fingers, gossip and laugh
So quick to judge but slow to look at themselves
Never approaching situations with the love of GOD
They prefer to hide behind their sinful shells
I’m sick of the backstabbing, the throwing the rock hiding their hands mentality
Nobody wants to ever take responsibility for their own transgressions 
They feel GOD has anointed them to teach others a lesson
Yep I speak my mind and don’t plan on taking anything back
Church folks are a trip most of them have little tact
Sweep around your own front door and deal with self
Once this happens your words can become better felt
Until then I will continue to be me
If my words go against your so called principles, morals while you stir up unnecessary controversy
Then you don’t have to read it do you and watch me continue to be free

Let me say that I’m sick of these holier-than-thou, dipped deeper in the blood than the sweet baby Jesus, Bible toting, judgmental, hypocritical, was at the cross when they crucified my Lord, changing up the Bible so it can benefit their lifestyles, trying to turn Christianity into a cult, condemning others to hell when they have a first class ticket there so called Saints of God.  These types of church folks are really on my last good strand of nerve. I have been holding this deep down in the lining of my large intestine lately.  
The saints are so set on tradition and doctrine that they loose sight on why Jesus died for us in the first place. Jesus is love everything about him is love Romans 12:10 says to love one another with brotherly love affection (as members of one family) giving precedence and showing honor to one another.  If this is His words then why it is so cold in the church why is it when I walk into the house of the Lord I feel that I am being condemned for enjoying life, I don’t have a problem with not fitting in I never will because God made me special. Every body wants to be accepted in some form or fashion and if they can’t find that acceptance in the church amongst His people then who do they run too?
In conclusion, the word Christian is a word used to describe Gods people, but being a Disciple for Christ means one who embraces and assist in spreading the teachings to one another not in condemnation but through love.

Shana Jay


Married Men by Shana Jay

Married Men by Shana Jay

So sick of married men in my face
I wish they would invent some married men mace
Please get a life, go home to your wife, and stop being so disrespectful and trif
Sick of feeling like its me that maybe I’m wearing a magnet of some kind
I have checked thoroughly under my arms pits, hairline or maybe it’s in my behind
I’m not that chick I don’t like to share I’m selfish and it’s not fair
How dare you try me as if I can be swayed?
You must like the idea of burning in hell for all eternity because you’re quickly on your way
Didn’t you make a vow before God or was it all a fa├žade?
If your wife were to find out about your tendencies she would certainly want to kill you and me
So let’s not make headline news go home to your wife I don’t wanna be your sideline boo
I hope I have made myself clear you don’t want to be like Marvin singing a chorus of Hear My dear or maybe Anna’s song go home to your wife that is where u belong

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. (Hebrews 13:4) I have had it up to here with married men and their antics so I’m about to approach this topic carefully but with the full intent of getting my point across. I have had so many indecent proposals here lately its ridiculous. One thing I do know is my morals and standards are not for sale.
I had a guy to offer his assistance in publishing my book but only if I sat on his face.  Really?!  He is married and has been for about 15 years now. I had a deacon of the church who was just really off the chain. He was so bold that I had to delete him from my facebook page because he was out of order.  The choir members and members of the clergy including the deacons would gather to pray before service what I began to notice is he would hold my hand a little longer than normal. Then he started inboxing me on facebook making sly suggestions and all I could think about was his wife and how you would think they were so in love because he bragged about her and put her on this pedestal for everyone to see. If she found out about the things that he had said and done she would be ready to kill both of us.
I had a man who didn’t let me know up front that he was married everybody else knew this but me. So when it finally came out he told me that we could continue to be friends because he needed me. He said that he wasn’t getting enough support at home and how his wife wasn’t there for him the way he thought a wife should be. I told him he needed to take his concerns about his wife to the sweet baby Jesus because there was nothing I could do for him.
You see people are so foolish they fail to realize that everybody in jail aren’t serial killers and pedophiles, there are people locked up for clicking out because someone has played with their heart. The creators of the show “Snapped” know all too well what I am referring to.  I do know for a fact that there are some women out here who are ready and willing to date a married man.
 Let some women tell it there’s a shortage of men here on earth and that maybe true due to the end times stated in the Bible.   Isaiah 4:1 reads as followed “In that day so few men will be left that seven women will fight for each man, saying, "Let us all marry you! We will provide our own food and clothing. Only let us take your name so we won't be mocked as old maids."  
We as women have to do better because I feel the reason we have slim pickings is because someone has settled out of being lonely and desperate. I guarantee you there is not one man that I know that will settle for less. They have it made up in their minds what they want and will be quick to walk away if that person doesn’t come close to what they are looking for.
In conclusion, married men will cheat because they have easy access to female companionship, bored, may have a nagging wife, or just looking for some fun and excitement. I can only speak for myself when I declare that I refuse to be 2nd choice to anyone I’m selfish and I don’t share. If all women had this mindset the married men would stay at home with their wives, there would be fewer children created from adulteress affairs, and a lower percentage of domestic violence issues. 

Shana Jay