Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Married Men by Shana Jay

Married Men by Shana Jay

So sick of married men in my face
I wish they would invent some married men mace
Please get a life, go home to your wife, and stop being so disrespectful and trif
Sick of feeling like its me that maybe I’m wearing a magnet of some kind
I have checked thoroughly under my arms pits, hairline or maybe it’s in my behind
I’m not that chick I don’t like to share I’m selfish and it’s not fair
How dare you try me as if I can be swayed?
You must like the idea of burning in hell for all eternity because you’re quickly on your way
Didn’t you make a vow before God or was it all a fa├žade?
If your wife were to find out about your tendencies she would certainly want to kill you and me
So let’s not make headline news go home to your wife I don’t wanna be your sideline boo
I hope I have made myself clear you don’t want to be like Marvin singing a chorus of Hear My dear or maybe Anna’s song go home to your wife that is where u belong

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. (Hebrews 13:4) I have had it up to here with married men and their antics so I’m about to approach this topic carefully but with the full intent of getting my point across. I have had so many indecent proposals here lately its ridiculous. One thing I do know is my morals and standards are not for sale.
I had a guy to offer his assistance in publishing my book but only if I sat on his face.  Really?!  He is married and has been for about 15 years now. I had a deacon of the church who was just really off the chain. He was so bold that I had to delete him from my facebook page because he was out of order.  The choir members and members of the clergy including the deacons would gather to pray before service what I began to notice is he would hold my hand a little longer than normal. Then he started inboxing me on facebook making sly suggestions and all I could think about was his wife and how you would think they were so in love because he bragged about her and put her on this pedestal for everyone to see. If she found out about the things that he had said and done she would be ready to kill both of us.
I had a man who didn’t let me know up front that he was married everybody else knew this but me. So when it finally came out he told me that we could continue to be friends because he needed me. He said that he wasn’t getting enough support at home and how his wife wasn’t there for him the way he thought a wife should be. I told him he needed to take his concerns about his wife to the sweet baby Jesus because there was nothing I could do for him.
You see people are so foolish they fail to realize that everybody in jail aren’t serial killers and pedophiles, there are people locked up for clicking out because someone has played with their heart. The creators of the show “Snapped” know all too well what I am referring to.  I do know for a fact that there are some women out here who are ready and willing to date a married man.
 Let some women tell it there’s a shortage of men here on earth and that maybe true due to the end times stated in the Bible.   Isaiah 4:1 reads as followed “In that day so few men will be left that seven women will fight for each man, saying, "Let us all marry you! We will provide our own food and clothing. Only let us take your name so we won't be mocked as old maids."  
We as women have to do better because I feel the reason we have slim pickings is because someone has settled out of being lonely and desperate. I guarantee you there is not one man that I know that will settle for less. They have it made up in their minds what they want and will be quick to walk away if that person doesn’t come close to what they are looking for.
In conclusion, married men will cheat because they have easy access to female companionship, bored, may have a nagging wife, or just looking for some fun and excitement. I can only speak for myself when I declare that I refuse to be 2nd choice to anyone I’m selfish and I don’t share. If all women had this mindset the married men would stay at home with their wives, there would be fewer children created from adulteress affairs, and a lower percentage of domestic violence issues. 

Shana Jay



  1. Snap snap snap!!!!!! I agree 100%!!!!!!!!

  2. Krishna I want to believe that there are some faithful men out here

  3. Well spoken. And this is coming from a brother who faced these same issues from the other side, while married I had to constantly brush of women to the point I began to believe my wedding ring was a magnet. All this of course so my ex could prove to be the adulterer and left me, and now I would have been signed the divorce papers but she's been refusing to agree to joint custody. I know my rights. And I know many who use the "slim picking" argument but it makes no sense when they cheat down instead of up, which happens often because like you the "ups" want no part in foolishness LOL!

  4. Yes sir!!! Its just sad to me that people dont take their vows seriously and then be looking crazy when they get caught up. Im sorry about ur Divorce I dont wish that on anyone.

  5. Wow, I can't believe you posted this today. It's like a message straight from heaven. I could tell you some of my stories, but you probably already know from experience or heard it from someone else. I so agree with you. And, I must add, that those same men who are doing it for selfish reasons are also playing with women's feelings. The wife and the potential adulteress. (Yup, she would be wrong, but it happens.)

    Uh, but the lower percentage of domestic violence. IDK about that part. :-)

    Great post!

  6. Petula the subject has been iggin me lately so I just decided to right about it and Im glad you can relate! I really think domestic violence statistics would go down lol *crossing my fingers*