“Time heals all wounds”
I can remember a dear friend telling me over and over again that I needed to get somewhere and heal. She said I didn't need to hurt anyone else’s son (lol). When I think back on the conversation she was exactly right. You see I had been in relationship after relationship not giving myself the time that I needed to heal mentally, physically and emotionally. I would jump out of one relationship directly into another one because I hated being alone. Moreover, in my times of being alone I would be forced to deal with my issues and I wasn't ready for all that.
So therefore I would always be out doing something. I, Shana Jay, threw myself deep into my work, and into my writings. I made sure that I kept busy so that I wouldn’t have to think about what I really needed to be dealing with. Now eventually this got played out and loneliness finally caught up with me and believe me it was not a pretty sight. I’m saying all this to say that a lot of the reasons relationships don’t work out is because people try to move on too quickly (past relationships).
There are people who are still hurting, holding anger, resentment and regret in their hearts (I’m guilty) so instead of going through the healing process they find someone or something to pacify them for the moment hoping that whatever it is will help them forget about their past. That never works.
In conclusion, I am in the process of getting to know “Shana” and being ok with who she is. I am taking time out to get a better relationship with God and heal my wounds so therefore when that time comes I wont be the bag lady that Erykah Badu sings about. Nobody should pay for the last person’s mistakes. It’s not fair to you or to them.