Tuesday, May 31, 2011

The Fact Is …I Need You by Shana Jay

Jill Scott wrote a song entitled The Fact is I need you the lyrics can be read below:

I can pay my own light bill baby
Pump my own gas in my own car
I can buy my own shoe collection
I've been blessed thus far
I can kill the spider above my bed
Although it's hard because I'm scared
I can even stain and polyurethane
But some things just don't change
I need you yeah
Sometimes so hard to say oh
I need you
Some things remain
I could buy my own groceries baby
Get my hair tight, my nails right
I can floss my own bling bling
Write the words to the songs I sing
I can even raise the child we'll make
Make sure he's loved and knows what God gave us
I can teach him how to walk and stand
But he needs you to help him be a man
We need you
So hard to say
We need you
Some things don't change
I could be congresswoman
Or a garbage woman or
Police officer, or a carpenter
I could be a doctor and a lawyer and a mother and a good girl
God what you've done to me
Kind of lover I could be
I could be a computer analyst, the Queen with the nappy hair raising her fist
Or I could be much more and a myriad of this
Hot as the summer, sweet as the first kiss
And even though I can do all these things
I need you
And even though I can do all these things
We need you
We need you
We need you
And even though I can do all these things by my damn self
I need you
I do, I do, I do, I do
And even though I can do all these things
I need you
We need you
We do
I was talking to a friend of mine and he talked about how he loved the way Jill expressed that no matter how strong and independent she is or became she still needed someone to make her feel secure. I totally agree and I find myself feeling the same way.  My family on both sides consists of very strong independent women who instilled these same values and characteristics in me.  I was told to depend on myself and God because these are the only two main factors that count. Overall people will let you down but God won’t.

Even though I grew up to be an independent woman I was still lacking. I got married at a young age and even though I’m divorced now it wasn’t entirely his fault. You see a man needs to feel like a man in his home and with me wearing the pants and the skirt in this situation he didn’t fit comfortably in the equation. Yes me, Miss Independent didn’t give him a chance to be a man. When I needed things done I asked him but since patience wasn’t a true virtue of mine I took it upon myself to get the job done quicker. 

See Beyonce sings about women running the world but when we get finished making all the executive decisions, raising babies, getting promoted on the job, learning new languages, being financially strong where does the man fit in? I don’t knock her idea for women empowerment and she is not the only one even Alicia Keys has a song entitled "Superwoman" it has a nice message but when I take my cape off and become Lois Lane I desire to be loved behind my superhero status. 

In conclusion, I need a man to be secure in himself and be the protector he was created to be. I need to no that he can be trusted to hold down the fort. I need to know when times get hard that he won’t play the role of the coward. I need to know that he wont run from a challenge that he will be there even when it doesn’t work out in his favor. My personality is strong and can be intimidating to some but overall I’m an Independent woman and I need love too.

Shana Jay aka SuperWoman



  1. "but overall I’m an Independent woman and I need love too." Exactly!

  2. Yes ma'am some women are afraid to admit this but its true :)