Sunday, May 29, 2011

Love Hangover by Shana Jay

“He was my love drug, my narcotic and I was his fiend because he cast a spell on me”

Hello my name is Shana Jay and I am a recovering addict. My story played out like a fairy tale at first. I was so in love with a man (or at least I thought it was love) that I lost myself in the process. I’m sure that if I sat down with many of you we would be able to compare notes rather it be a man or a woman and come to the conclusion that everybody has been a fool in love.
I felt like Diana Ross wrote the song “Love Hangover” based on my life. I felt like she had peeped into the window of my soul cause no matter how this man treated me I didn’t want a cure and I certainly didn’t want a doctor or a preacher.  As I got deeper into the church I learned what I had was not a love hangover it was a soul tie. What is a soul tie? A soul tie is like a linkage in the soul realm between two people. It links their souls together, which can bring fourth either beneficial results or negative results.
This man was so intoxicating and I was his fool in a drunken stupor blinded by lust overlooking his mistreatment.  I diagnosed myself as having the negative side effects of the soul tie which can also be used for the devil's advantage. Soul ties formed from sex outside of marriage causes a person to become defiled.  This is why it is so common for a person to still have 'feelings' towards an ex-lover that they have no right to be attracted to in that way.
 Even 20 years down the road, a person may still think of their first lover... even if he or she is across the country and has their own family, all because of a soul tie! Demonic spirits can also take advantage of ungodly soul ties, and use them to transfer spirits between one person to another.  Now I said all this to bring up a commercial that was very poplar on MTV about STD’s. This couple were about to have sex when everybody they had ever slept with joined them in their bedroom (can you say very awkward moment).
Just think if this man had slept with over 100 women and vice versa how many spirits would be transferred to his sex partner. So basically her nick name would be legion because there were many.  The positive effect of a soul tie: In a godly marriage, God links the two together and the Bible tells us that they become one flesh. As a result of them becoming one flesh, it binds them together and they will cleave onto one another in a unique way. The purpose of this cleaving is to build a very healthy, strong and close relationship between a man and a woman.
In conclusion, I had the sweetest hangover but only for the moment because he wasn’t my husband then we were both two broken vessels who should have healed from past relationships instead of moving on destroying others in the process.  I’m not perfect and I can honestly say that I do love sex it is one of God’s greatest creations but because I was not in His will (marriage) my plans and everything around me failed with this man.


Shana Jay aka “The Perfect Imperfection”



  1. nice post here. In a sense almost reminds me a erykah badu song ..recoveering over lover recovering from a love she cant get over. But again well written maam.Nice One

  2. Ghostwriter, Thanks sooo much! I figure my life experiences will help someone ya know. I appreciate you taking the time out to read my blog means a lot :)

  3. Very eloquently put Dear! I remember being told this as a child but never quite understanding it until I became older and solidified a tie with someone that was not my husband...I wish that more men, and women, understood this tie and acted more responsibly

  4. Joy!!! What u said! Im sure if everyone acted more responsibly not just with soul ties but matters of the heart we would be cooking with fish grease then. People are too caught up in "self" so they don't care about the outcome only what is going to benefit them in that moment.